I am deep, not miserable
As I’ve grown, I've come to realize the profound impact our emotions and reactions have on our lives, often to our detriment. When I was younger, I prided myself on dancing on the emotional extremes, fluctuating between expressive openness and closed off reserve, never settling for a middle ground. With experience and time, I've learned to dance in that more balanced space, recognizing the importance of maintaining equilibrium in the face of life's trials.
In our society, there exists an insane belief that emotions and logic are mutually exclusive, when in reality, they are intertwined and complementary. By eschewing either extreme, we create an imbalanced perspective that does little to serve our well-being. It is imperative to embrace both the rational and the experiential aspects, as each provides invaluable insight into our psyche.
The challenge lies in not letting our circumstances define us, while simultaneously acknowledging their impact. Victims, in particular, often face societal bias that equates a "perfect victim" with a specific response to abuse. This fails to recognize the diversity of human reaction and the role of the nervous system in self preservation.
Half of the time when something bad happens to a person, I am pretty sure they are very aware of their predicament but they’d rather find some sort of escapism instead of dwelling on it and letting it ruin their time, not because they’re ignoring it but because they realize that they still have to function on a day to day basis. This is not fostering the idea of being “a man” or to dismiss your emotions, it is about understanding your coping mechanisms. Feelings/emotions are not gender based, they are not a ”female thing” , it is a Human thing.
Educating ourselves about our emotional landscape is crucial, as is cultivating empathy and compassion. The recent uptick in suicide rates reflects a societal lack of understanding and support for those grappling with mental health challenges. It is our collective responsibility to foster a culture of kindness and compassion, both online and off.
As I sign off, I hope this reflection resonates with you and encourages you to prioritize self awareness and support.
Word of the week
Eschew(verb): to deliberately abstain from
Until next time, Didi Khan.